Breaking Free from the Pressure to Be Perfect: The Stickler Saboteur

“Perfectionism is a lie from the enemy. It’s not God’s standard. God’s way is grace.” — Dr. Vinnie Cappetta

Watch our latest webinar below.

What if trying to “get it right” is what’s keeping you from healing?

Whether you’re grieving, processing trauma, or simply worn out by the pressure to perform—there’s a deeper peace available to you.

In our recent live session, I led a conversation on the Stickler Saboteur—the perfectionist voice inside many of us that says, “You’re not doing enough. You should be better by now.” For those of us carrying grief, trauma, or chronic anxiety, that voice can feel even louder.

“Perfectionism is a lie from the enemy. It’s not God’s standard. God’s way is grace.” — Dr. Vinnie Cappetta

I shared my own story of childhood loss and the long path of healing. I talked about how trauma taught me to strive for control—and how the Stickler became a false shield against pain. But over time, I discovered something better: God’s perfect peace.

Key Takeaways from the Webinar:

• Perfectionism isn’t protection—it’s pressure.

After trauma or loss, we often cling to control to feel safe. But God's Word reminds us: “There is no fear in love. Perfect love drives out fear.” (1 John 4:18)

• God offers a better way.

With simple, daily grounding practices like PQ reps, you can shift from survival mode to spiritual presence—rooted not in performance, but in grace.

• You can rewire your mind for peace.

This session blends biblical wisdom and brain science to help you move from striving to abiding. It’s especially helpful if you’re walking through trauma recovery, grief support, or simply want to reconnect with God’s voice above the noise.

“Be still and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10

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